Co-parenting Series Archives | Marriage & Divorce

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 1. Introduction

Introduction and Purpose. In a different Blog Series on this site, specifically Blog #8 of the Skill Building Series, we highlighted the importance of being able to understand the perspective of others. This is the ability to step outside of your current situation and see yourself, your co-parent and your children objectively. It is also […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 2. The Use of Imagination

Introduction. In Blog 1 of this Series, Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents, we introduced both the importance of and the challenges to getting a broader perspective on a healthy co-parenting relationship. We hope we were clear on the benefits of doing so. We gave you homework: to make a list of people who might […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 3. Looking Back as Adult Children

Introduction. In Blog 1 of this Series, Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents, we introduced both the importance of and the challenges to getting a broader perspective on a healthy co-parenting relationship. We hope we were clear on the benefits of doing so. We encouraged you to be curious and be willing to change your […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 4. Listening to Friends and Family

Introduction. In Blog 1 of this Series, Getting a Perspective on Being Divorced Parents, we introduced both the importance of and the challenges to getting a broader perspective on a healthy co-parenting relationship. In Blog #2, we asked you, not only to be curious but also use your imagination. In Blog 3, we asked you […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 5. Listening to and Learning from Your Children – Now

In this Series on getting a perspective on your co-parenting relationship, we not only introduced the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others (Blog #2). We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog #3). We also […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 6. Your Co-parenting Partner (CPP) – the Other Parent

In this Series on getting perspective on being divorced parents, we introduced not only the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others (Blog 2). We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog 3). We also asked […]

Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 7. The Five Tasks of a Healthy Co-parenting Relationship

Once you have a perspective on being divorced parents, you can now begin to propose doing the five tasks that successful co-parents do: Share information, Build in flexibility in the custody schedule and create easy access between the parents and the children, Coordinate the two homes to be similar, Plan child-friendly transitions from home […]

Co-parenting Series – Do You Want a Happy Baby

Most people who divorce would like their children to be happy. However, more important than being happy, most parents would rather that, when grown, their children lead successful lives: that they have a career or job that works for them; that they are socially successful with friends; that they get into a relationship that leads […]

Co-Parenting Communication – Blog 1 The Two Purposes of Communication: Sharing Information and Taking Action

In this Series on Co-parenting Communication, we address a major obstacle and identify a solution to that obstacle. We then define the two purposes of communication in a co-parenting relationship and provide information-sharing rules and procedures for instituting effective communication in a co-parenting relationship, regardless of the history of that relationship (with a couple […]

Co-Parenting Communication – Blog 2 Sharing Information Procedures

In the first Blog of this Series, we wrote that there are two purposes of communication in a co-parenting relationship: information sharing and taking action. We also wrote that many separating and divorcing parents are often at odds with one another and have trouble with effective communication because they do not feel emotionally safe with […]