A surprising statistic is that about a third of all recent divorces are occurring with spouses over 50 years of age.  These divorces have taken on the name, “Grey Divorce,” for obvious reasons.  This is twice the number that was true in 1990.  As with younger divorces, women initiate the divorce twice as often as […]

Most divorces are dominated in the early stages by strong emotions.  At the same time, the biggest obstacles to having a sensible divorce are strong emotions.  It is, therefore, not surprising that as many as 80% of divorcing spouses make major mistakes handling their divorce because the process is dominated by their strong emotions.  In […]

Most divorces are dominated in the early stages by strong emotions.  At the same time, the biggest obstacle to having a sensible divorce is strong emotions.  It is, therefore, not surprising that as many as 80% of divorcing spouses make major mistakes handling their divorce because it is dominated by their strong emotions.  Those mistakes […]

Parental alienation and Game Theory[1]. When Ken was in private practice, one of his known areas of expertise was “parental alienation”. These were cases in which a child, at a minimum, expressed a desire, or more seriously, had successfully refused, to spend time with one of their parents.[2]  In practical terms, this meant Ken serving […]

  Introduction and Confused Beliefs In our book, Planning a Sensible Divorce: How to Avoid the Toxic Dance of a Messy Divorce, Ken and Allan make the point that about twenty percent of current divorces are fairly amicable.  About another twenty percent involve spouses with mental disorders or conduct problems, such as violence, or both […]

            Once you have a perspective on being divorced parents, you can now begin to propose doing the five tasks that successful co-parents do: Share information, Build in flexibility in the custody schedule and create easy access between the parents and the children, Coordinate the two homes to be similar, Plan child-friendly transitions from home […]