Introduction and Confused Beliefs In our book, Planning a Sensible Divorce: How to Avoid the Toxic Dance of a Messy Divorce, Ken and Allan make the point that about twenty percent of current divorces are fairly amicable.  About another twenty percent involve spouses with mental disorders or conduct problems, such as violence, or both […]

            Once you have a perspective on being divorced parents, you can now begin to propose doing the five tasks that successful co-parents do: Share information, Build in flexibility in the custody schedule and create easy access between the parents and the children, Coordinate the two homes to be similar, Plan child-friendly transitions from home […]

In this Series on getting perspective on being divorced parents, we introduced not only the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others (Blog 2).  We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog 3). We also asked […]

In this Series on getting a perspective on your co-parenting relationship, we not only introduced the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others     (Blog #2).  We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog #3). We also […]

Introduction. In Blog 1 of this Series, Getting a Perspective on Being Divorced Parents, we introduced both the importance of and the challenges to getting a broader perspective on a healthy co-parenting relationship.  In Blog #2, we asked you, not only to be curious but also use your imagination. In Blog 3, we asked you […]

Introduction. In Blog 1 of this Series, Getting  Perspective on Being Divorced Parents, we introduced both the importance of and the challenges to getting a broader perspective on a healthy co-parenting relationship.  We hope we were clear on the benefits of doing so.   We encouraged you to be curious and be willing to change your […]