Trick #6: Winning on legal outcomes is most important. Playing a game with someone is fun, win or lose, but it is more fun to win. Evolution selected humans who win and who have a natural desire to prevail, whether in enjoyable activities like tennis or serious activities like battle to the death. The traditional […]
Trick #1: In the traditional family law system, the parties are directed to and often pressured to focus on legal outcomes, not life goals. Legal outcomes are not goals. Legal outcomes should be tools for the parties to reach their goals. If focused on the legal outcome, it makes sense that a property distribution should […]
In this Series on getting a perspective on your co-parenting relationship, we introduced not only the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others (Blog 2). We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog 3). We also […]
This Blog is the second in a Series for divorced and/or separated parents, specifically addressing healthy outcomes for children of divorce. In the first Blog in the series, we listed several assumptions and then pointed out an irony, that the law focuses on decision-making and a Physical Custody Schedule, when the Schedule is the least […]
This Blog is the fifth in a Series focusing on the skills needed to avoid or escape from destructive divorce conflict. These skills are directed to separated parents who must continue to have a co-parenting relationship after the separation and divorce. Most people caught in divorce conflict would like to escape and move on with their lives, […]
When people get a divorce, they are often seduced into the “world of lawyers,” who live in the world of the law. The law dictates the distribution of family property, debt, future income in the form of child support and often spousal support, and time with the children. The last task might seem strange because it suggests […]
Our Ten Tricks In two prior blogs, we wrote that the traditional family law system (the “System”) tricks people into making bad deals and self-defeating choices. In the first blog, we wrote that the System has no clear customer-based Strategic Intent, no Value Proposition and vague and ambiguous Standards. In the second blog, we provided science-based standards to replace […]
This blog is one of a series that focus on the nut we would all like to crack: divorce conflict. Books on Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, Cooperative Divorce and other models in family law have been attempts to move the needle from conflict in divorce to amicable divorces. This is because most professionals involved with divorcing parties, especially […]
This blog is one of a series that focus on the nut we would all like to crack: divorce conflict. Books on divorce, Collaborative Divorce; Cooperative Divorce; and other models in family law have been attempts to move the needle from divorce conflict to amicable divorces. This is because most professionals involved with divorcing parties, especially attorneys […]
Kenneth H. Waldron, Ph.D. and Allan R. Koritzinsky, J.D. are your divorce doctors. This and other blogs on our site have the purpose of helpin people achieve a sensible divorce. The question that this blog focuses on is “Does the current family law system focus on a Plan (meaning a settlement or Court decision) for reaching long-term […]
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