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Getting Perspective on Being Divorced Parents – 7. The Five Tasks of a Healthy Co-parenting Relationship
Once you have a perspective on being divorced parents, you can now begin to propose doing the five tasks that successful co-parents do: Share information, Build in flexibility in the custody schedule and create easy access between the parents and the children, Coordinate the two homes to be similar, Plan child-friendly transitions from home […]
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Why do people sometimes make choices that are self-defeating? In our recent book, Game Theory and the Transformation of Family Law, Attorney Allan Koritzinsky and Ken Waldron suggest bargaining founded on game theory. But why game theory? Game theory is a branch of mathematics that analyzes how and why people make the choices that they make. […]
Ten Traps Series -Trap # 1
Trap #1: In the traditional family law system, the parties are directed to and often pressured to focus on legal outcomes, not life goals. Legal outcomes are not goals. Legal outcomes should be tools for the parties to reach their goals. If focused on the legal outcome, it makes sense that a property distribution should […]
Ten Traps Series – Trap #2
“What custody schedule do you want?” In a prior blog, we noted that this is a trick question because it distracts people from their life goals and focuses them on legal outcomes, as though they are goals. It is also a trap question because it reframes a non-zero sum game into a zero sum game. […]
Ten Traps Series – Trap #3
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Ten Traps Series – Trap #4
We began this series by focusing on how the legal system can trap people into self-defeating patterns of decision making: Trap #1 – distracting people from their life goals into thinking that legal outcomes are goals; Trap #2 – treating divorce as a zero sum game; Trap #3: the system assumes disputes and seduces divorcing […]
Ten Traps Series – Trap #5
In review, we have pointed out how the family law system unintentionally traps people into making poor decisions and have detailed four of those traps: Trap #1 – distracting people from their life goals into thinking that legal outcomes are goals; Trap #2 – treating divorce as a zero sum game; Trap #3: the system […]
Ten Traps Series – Trap #6
Trap #6: Winning on legal outcomes is most important. Playing a game with someone is fun, win or lose, but it is more fun to win. Evolution selected humans who win and who have a natural desire to prevail, whether in enjoyable activities like tennis or serious activities like battle to the death. The traditional […]
Ten Traps Series – Trap #7
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