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Marriage Series: Discussions and Decisions After Your First Argument – What was the Difference

Many people planning to marry or are recently married always have a first argument, and soon they recognize that arguments are an inevitable ingredient in marriage. Some people even “celebrate” the event, because it means “We really are married!” This assumption is not only true, but also a turning point. That first argument can be […]

Booklets: The Initial Client Interview

Our request…If you are a divorce lawyer, please consider using this approach. If you are a divorce client, please give your lawyer a copy. Thank you! INTRODUCTION Most potential divorcees and most divorce-related professionals define divorce as a legal event, dominated by the distribution of property, debt, future income (where and when applicable) and time […]

Marriage Series: Crossing the Great Marital Barrier: What the Heck is Weltenschauung?

INTRODUCTION The greatest challenge in a marriage is for spouses to understand the world as seen by the other spouse. By “world” we mean the conscious and unconscious vision that the spouse has about what is important, how things work, expectations of what a marriage will be like, what is the desired end-product of relationships […]

Marriage Series: Narcissism and Marriage

Narcissism has gotten a really bad wrap. First of all, the word, narcissism, or calling someone narcissistic, has taken on a very nasty meaning. It used to be a simple psychological concept that, at the extreme, could be a disorder. Perhaps the concept moved into public awareness with the book, The Narcissism Epidemic: Living […]

Marriage Series: Modern Trends, Risks and Solutions in Marriage

INTRODUCTION Marriage is here to stay, but change is Inevitable. It is a well-known fact that change is a constant in all things. This is as true of human institutions as it is of all things human. Institutions age and circumstances change, often for the better but sometimes for the worse. Marriage has […]

Marriage Series: Marriage is a Game

Learning about the Rules, Skills and Overconfidence Bias All types of human interaction can be viewed as a game, including even very serious types of interactions such as war. Mathematicians have studied human interaction and developed a mathematical approach to increase the chances of successful outcomes.[1] Surprisingly, it is not that complicated. Games simply have […]

Marriage Series: Seeing beyond the Obvious

An important, perhaps the most important, ability to creating a successful marriage, even from one that is not currently going well, is the ability to see beyond the obvious. This is not easy to do. Let us give you an example, in fact the example that inspired our research and the resulting book, The Road […]

Marriage Series. Discussions to Have Before Marriage: Crushes

The blogs in this Series describe helpful discussions to have before marriage.[1] In a sense, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. These discussions set a framework within which couples considering marriage, or are already married, can predict typical points of disagreement and plan for them. Affairs during marriage often lead […]

Divorce Series: Understanding a Sensible Divorce

Introduction and Confused Beliefs In our book, Planning a Sensible Divorce: How to Avoid the Toxic Dance of a Messy Divorce, Ken and Allan make the point that about twenty percent of current divorces are fairly amicable. About another twenty percent involve spouses with mental disorders or conduct problems, such as violence, or both […]

Marriage Series: Marital Conflict and Understanding Perspetive

By Kenneth R. Waldron, PhD and Allan R. Koritzinsky, JD[1] Introduction Cassie and Mark marry. They are in love. They have dated long enough to believe that they know one another and are looking forward to a life together. They have discussed important topics, such as having children. They are aware that many marriages end […]