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Trick #8
In prior articles, we wrote about the natural desire to prevail against perceived rivals and the potential use of game theory to understand obstacles in the current legal system as it takes families through separations and divorce. We next focused on how the legal system begins to trick people into self-defeating patterns of decision making: […]
Trick #9
In prior articles, we wrote about the natural desire to prevail against perceived rivals and the potential use of game theory to understand obstacles in the current legal system as it takes families through separations and divorce. We next focused on how the legal system begins to trick people into self-defeating patterns of decision making: […]
Trick #10
In prior articles, we wrote about the natural desire to prevail against perceived rivals and the potential use of game theory to understand obstacles in the current legal system as it takes families through separation and divorce. We next focused on how the legal system begins to trick people into self-defeating patterns of decision-making: Trick […]
Being an Agent of Change
Blogs #1, 2 & 3 in this series assumed that two coparents would like to improve their coparenting relationship and are willing to cooperate to do so. Blogs #4 and 5 assume that one parent would like to make improvements, but has an uncooperative coparent. For that purpose, we introduced a new mindset: focusing solely […]
Being in Control and Teaching
In Blogs #1 & #2 in this series, we focused on the importance of being right and winning in conflicts with others. A conflict is simply a disagreement that does not get resolved easily. Disagreements get resolved easily when one of the two people admits to being wrong or when one of the two people […]
Flying Solo
In Blogs #1 and #2 in this series, we explored the importance of being right and winning to human beings. In Blog #2, we also pointed out that being right and winning usually serves people well, but in some cases, can lead to self-defeating choices and persisting in efforts that have no end. In Blog […]
Redefining Winning
In Blogs #1 and #2, we made the points that part of being human is the desire to be right and to win. This is true in any contest. In tennis for example, a player might be excited to be right when predicting the direction the opponent would run. By being right, the player can […]
Winning the Conflict Contest
The saying that “It takes two to tango” confronts us with a sad truth. When two people are in ongoing conflict with one another, as is true in many co-parenting relationships, both people are contributing to the conflict. These are called “negative cycles,” where an event occurs, and a series of reactions occur by both […]
Winning is Better than Losing
There are those who say that “Winning isn’t everything.” Who are they kidding? Everyone wants to win! Ken and Allan play tennis. Tennis is always fun, but winning at tennis is a lot more fun than losing. Allan is a lawyer. Negotiating takes skill, and trying a case in court takes skill. Doing both well […]
Getting a Perspective on Your Co-Parenting Relationship Blog 6: Your Co-Parenting Partner (CPP)
In this Series on getting a perspective on your co-parenting relationship, we introduced not only the need to use imagination but also the need to get information from others (Blog 2). We asked you to imagine your grown children as adults and imagine their perspective on growing up in your family (Blog 3). We also […]